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Justin answers questions you may have. See below.

  • Why do people go to prison?

    Because when a person breaks the law and is caught they are sent to prison. Just like time out at school and home. Prison is time out for grown ups.

  • Is it my fault my parent went to prison?

    No. It's normal to feel this way. Don't blame yourself. It's not your fault.

  • Is my parent a bad person because they are in prison?

    No, your parent is not a bad person. They are still your parent. They made a bad choice and broke the law. That is why they are in prison.

  • I don't want to visit my parent in prison. Is that okay?

    Yes. It's OK to feel this way. You could talk to someone you trust, about it. You can still keep in contact by talking to them on the phone or writing letters if you want to.

  • Is it OK to be angry at my parent for what they did?

    It is OK to feel angry about what they did, but staying angry or doing angry things will hurt you and everyone else. Talk about how you feel angry with your caregiver or someone you trust or go to the phone page to find somebody to talk to.

    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them
    Help lines
    You can ring these at any time if you live in New Zealand, and someone will be there to talk to you:

    • Kids Line (13 or younger) 0800 543-754
    • Youth Line (14 or older) 0800 376 633
    • What's Up 0800 942 878
    • Child Help Line (Monday to Friday 9am - 7.30pm) 0800 366 694
  • People say I am like my parent, does that mean I will end up in prison too?

    No. Even if you are told you are just like your parent, it doesn't mean you will end up in prison too. Everyone has to make their own choices.

  • My parent at home is often sad or angry, what can I do?

    They are feeling upset because your parent is in prison. Your parent may be crying a lot or getting angry and stressed easily. You can help by helping out at home like making your own bed or helping with the dishes. You could write your parent at home a nice letter to tell them you love them or give them a big kiss and cuddle. You can look at this list below to find a person to talk to about how you feel.


    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them
    Help lines
    You can ring these at any time if you live in New Zealand, and someone will be there to talk to you:

    • Kids Line (13 or younger) 0800 543-754
    • Youth Line (14 or older) 0800 376 633
    • What's Up 0800 942 878
    • Child Help Line (Monday to Friday 9am - 7.30pm) 0800 366 694
  • What could change at home now that my parent is in prison?

    Your parent at home may have less time to spend on you. You may have to help them more. They may have less money as you had before. You may have to move house. This may be scary, but there will always be someone to look after you and somewhere for you to live. If you want to talk to someone else, look at people in this list below who you could talk to.


    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them
    Help lines
    You can ring these at any time if you live in New Zealand, and someone will be there to talk to you:

    • Kids Line (13 or younger) 0800 543-754
    • Youth Line (14 or older) 0800 376 633
    • What's Up 0800 942 878
    • Child Help Line (Monday to Friday 9am - 7.30pm) 0800 366 694
  • Will my parent come home to live with me?

    This is different for everybody. Talk to your caregiver about this. If they do come home to live with you, you might be happy or nervous. Talk to someone about how you feel from this list below.


    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them
    Help lines
    You can ring these at any time if you live in New Zealand, and someone will be there to talk to you:

    • Kids Line (13 or younger) 0800 543-754
    • Youth Line (14 or older) 0800 376 633
    • What's Up 0800 942 878
    • Child Help Line (Monday to Friday 9am - 7.30pm) 0800 366 694
  • Will my parent at home have to go to prison too?

    A lot of children who have a mum or dad in prison worry about this. Talk to someone you trust and tell them how you feel or fine someone to talk to on this list.


    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them
    Help lines
    You can ring these at any time if you live in New Zealand, and someone will be there to talk to you:

    • Kids Line (13 or younger) 0800 543-754
    • Youth Line (14 or older) 0800 376 633
    • What's Up 0800 942 878
    • Child Help Line (Monday to Friday 9am - 7.30pm) 0800 366 694
  • When will my parent get out of prison?

    This is different for every person. Talk to your caregiver about this.

  • I think my parent has gone to prison but I am not quite sure.

    Explain to your caregiver how you are feeling and that you need to know the truth.

  • Will my parent be different when they get out of prison?

    They may be different depending on how long they have been in prison. If it is a long time they will have to get used to living back home. They may have been given a chance to learn more about themselves and making good choices when they were in prison.

  • I want to live with my parent in prison. If I commit a crime will we be together?

    Don't commit a crime to be with your parent. Prisons do not put family members together. Children are not put into adult prisons.

  • How big are the prisons?

    All the prisons are different. Some hold 100 people and some hold 1000 people.

  • Is prison like what it is on TV?

    TV is usually just pretend. And all prisons are different.

  • What does parole mean?

    Your parent will have a parole date which is when they will meet with a judge and some other important people who will decide if they are allowed to come out early. Your parent / caregiver might go to this meeting to help them decide.

  • No one at home wants to talk about my parent what can I do?

    You could talk to any adult you trust or look down the list below to find somebody to talk to.


    People I know
    Family, mentor, friends, people at church, school teacher, adults you trust.
    Parent or caregiver at home
    It's important to tell the person looking after you about how you are feeling.
    You can email us
    If you email us we will get back to you.
    Listen to other children
    Hear other children talking about what it is like for them